I often hear women complain that men are no longer eligible and that their struggle to find someone who meets their most basic requirements as a companion. Think about this, it is rare to hear a man say he is no longer eligible men, but they may argue that too many women are highly selective. No, this lack of commitment to an accusation used against men wary of marriage, but these days you're more likely to find a woman with a good work that has taken this role as vigilant.
I know lots of eligible men. They are young, single, beautiful, simple, with good careers, lifestyles, are healthy and seeking a serious relationship. In fact most men I know are monogamous! I asked a friend of mine, Sean, 32 years, if he felt that modern women he met were ready to compromise and said:
"I wanted to stay for long periods of time, but women are too interested in his career as a random minimum fat wallet and nice car, or are simply too scared of commitment levels are necessary to live with someone. And 'I think Women just are not willing to compromise on the new found strength and I am very scared of monogamy. Every time I tried to be a serious relationship, is a girl who has a panic, when things become more difficult. "
Sociology is an interesting development, and view Sean is not alone. The fact is that there is an enormous reservoir of resources, talented people out there ready to commit, but they are really struggling to find partners. It is important to note that there is not much difference in the number of unmarried men and women available and if we are not faced with an imbalance. So what's wrong?
Well first, we must consider social change. The social emancipation of women was pleasant life in the past 15 years. Women's wages have increased in many sectors, more women than men seem to excel in school and have moved into the pillar of career field. A career is reflected in the financial liberalization that allows women to buy their own apartments and cars and all unprecedented independent life for two generations. Women are able to conceive later and have sexual freedom unprecedented in modern society. In fact, some men I interviewed saw women now as the main aggressor and sex were "afraid of them." Women have become dominant in some areas and fallen men, unaware of his new role and what it entails. If I understand this can not be true in some smaller communities, the trend of urban women confirms this general trend.
Marriage has become a taboo for many women, because they thought they were subjugated role in the unilateral compromise is not just worth having on board. The average western woman marriage has risen to nearly twenty-something early thirties, certainly at the age of 29 years is essential for many. Instead, the women were replaced by early marriage, with the realization of self, life full of meaning, content, and the career path. This, in turn, means that a woman becomes instinctively very picky about all life partner, which can remain in this beautiful world.
Meanwhile, people are struggling and can be considered more pathetic in its stores in need. It is more than evident in television ad campaigns running. If a man is fighting desperately to keep his beloved, the woman has other ideas about where she sees herself in ten years. Can be adjusted with the children, it can be a tax exile in the Bahamas, you can be independent, financially astute and driven and successful. But it will not take any age throughout the ride. She wants her man to get in shape or boat. And with good reason.
It is clear that the boundaries of relationships have been displaced. Many professional women do not jeopardize their jobs due to a relationship. It is likely that the man moves his girlfriend, she for him. Career with financial independence and like it or not, the struggle of many women understand that men have put in print that breadwinner. Is likely to refer to hunter-gatherers of human evolution can not be an excuse to scorn. However, like many women to excel in their career and that man must be reconciled with the fact that can not be the main source of income, not more. In fact, it may be more likely to stay home and raise their children.
The male is blood red in shame. The media and Hollywood to send many mixed signals about how to act and react. The problem here is that there is currently no definitive solution has been resolved. women's lives have become dynamic and men are slow to react and evolve together. Therefore, we can explain the increase in laddish supposedly reactionary culture portrayed in magazines like Loaded, FHM and television Jackass. If a man can find his own identity within a relationship, so she divorced to examine the evolution of relationships. Please note, however, consider the plight of modern men are in women.
Because women are developing their independence during the winds, and so become sophisticated consumers, and an acute sense of taste. Much more than many men. This, in turn, means that they know exactly what they are looking for when you come to ask them to go on a date. Do it well and you can choose whether you get it wrong and you get into the sea without hesitation. And no, it can be considered. Sophisticated new woman is often, so I do not see any committed relationship the same way to give something. We often hear that women are looking for a man who "compliment" their lives and increase their life experiences. There is no compromise proposal on their behalf, however.
Women are also well aware of the fact that men pay for women and can deplete their emotional well-being and economic development. Humans can be hard work, if not mentally self-sufficient already. I'm sorry guys, but many of you are a bit 'too emotional for the poor yet. This may be associated with the current state of the cars of men, trust in the world remains the dominant female. Women now value their freedom to express themselves sexually as never before, and this will definitely cause a problem for men. TV shows like Sex and the City has performed almost a bastion of sexual discussion, that men often feel uncomfortable. Although women are still reported confidence in their sexual behavior to the needs of men struggling to Open mind is needed. Ask many of the men on the mouth or anal sex, for example, and are far away. Men have always thought that sex was in their field, is now the hunter has become prey.
Children are the main ingredient in the equation because, as successful and confident modern woman, her biological clock may still tick. First, it is important to emphasize that some women are now happy to acknowledge that they do not want children, that is a change in previous generations. Some women are happy to admit that never wants to marry. But for those who want their children in their thirties, they have more options than just trying to sound semi-permanent relationship. While men can carry out these responsibilities before, now struggling to maintain it. If they can replace the fertility clinic may be in big trouble.
I have no answers to this question, but I do not think that women are still the dominant relationships, while men are simply lost. Although a woman may choose to act like the man her husband is a male terms. In the past, when you could call the shots, now you must listen carefully, if he does, it ends up leaving on the shelf. It can not be that women can not commit, you may simply not needed anymore.
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